When a loved one passes away, many family members and friends often ask
how they can help. These individuals usually are not sure what they can
do for you besides giving flowers and cards, and you may not be able to
tell them how to properly help you either.
To help you find the words, here are ten ideas for how friends can truly
help you after you’ve lost a loved one.
1. Bring Food
When you're dealing with funeral arrangements, you don't have time
to cook. Ask one caring friend to organize a meal train. Your friends
can sign up to bring meals for your family on different days.
2. Bring Postage Supplies
You'll need to write many thank you notes after the funeral. Ask a
friend to pick up some postage supplies, such as envelopes, stamps, and
thank you cards.
3. Purchase Household Supplies
As the funeral approaches, you'll likely have many family members staying
with you. Thus, you'll need more household supplies like toilet paper,
paper towels, and garbage bags. You'll also benefit from paper plates
and plastic utensils.
4. Offer Childcare
When you're busy planning the funeral, your children's needs still
need to be met. Ask trustworthy friends if they can pick up your children
from school or watch them for a few hours.
5. Come Over and Talk
Maybe what you need most right now is a listening ear and a shoulder to
cry on. When a close friend asks you what they can do, there's no
shame in asking them to come over and talk with you. Your friends probably
already want to, but feel awkward about stopping by when they're not
sure whether you're ready to talk.
6. Help Clean
Perhaps you have friends and family coming in town for the funeral, and
your house is in complete disarray. A few friends can come over and whip
your home into shape.
7. Donate to Charity
If you don't want any more flowers or cards but your friends still
want to give you a gift, select your departed loved one's favorite
charity and ask well-wishers to donate to the charity in your loved-one’s name.
8. Support Out-of-Town Guests
You're likely too busy to help all your family members who are visiting
for the funeral, so ask a friend if they can give rides to and from the
airport or book a hotel. Some friends may even offer their home for guests
to stay in.
9. Help Planning the Funeral
You can greatly decrease your stress by utilizing your friends' specific
talents to help you with the funeral planning. If you have a friend who
is a chef, for instance, ask him or her to take charge of planning refreshments
or a family meal. If you have a musical friend, he or she could choose
the musical selections at the funeral. An artistic or word-loving friend
could create a written program.
You might also appreciate support as you meet with the funeral home director
or select a casket or headstone. Have a friend come with you to appointments
and take notes.
10. Raise Money for the Funeral
Burying your loved one can cost thousands of dollars. If a friend offers
to donate money for funeral costs, ask him or her to also start an online
fundraiser that other friends can donate to.
Consider placing all of the tasks above on an online spreadsheet and sharing
it with your friends through email. Your friends can then see what's
already been done and sign up for tasks that are still needed.
Once your friends know how they can help, you can truly focus on planning
a beautiful funeral and burial for your loved one. For quality, affordable
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